Dear Yvonne:

I'm a straight female in a committed relationship of three years. When my man and I first started dating, I had no trouble reaching orgasm. But for the last year, I’ve needed more and more unusual scenarios to get me off, like having sex in public restrooms and movie theaters, or videotaping ourselves. It's gotten to the point where I can't climax when having regular old bed sex with him. Is there something wrong with me? 

There’s nothing wrong with you. In fact, there’s nothing wrong with anybody when it comes to sex, unless it involves children, animals or not giving consent. Fact of the matter is: you’re either bored with your sex life, bored with your relationship, or bored with your boyfriend – or all three. While you might worry that you’re looking for love in all the wrong places, you’ve merely discovered the joys of racier sex and made them your latest arousal fix.

These sorts of sexcapades are only a problem if you get caught (or should I say arrested?) or when one particular pursuit develops into a fetish. That said, if you’re feeling guilty about having surpassed the traditional route of getting off, don’t beat yourself up. Rather, enjoy this time of sexual freedom, exploration and adventure.

If, on the other hand, you’re bothered that you’ve gotten bored, it’s time for you to rethink the relationship and consider getting rid of the boyfriend.

Dear Yvonne:

When my girlfriend and I have sex, it’s great. But she only wants to have intercourse after I satisfy her orally, which I don’t do often because I don’t like the taste of her vagina. Lately I’ve experimented with rubbing various foods against her labia to disguise the taste. (We both enjoy this game.) Recently, we have been using various meats, including roast beef, pepper turkey and olive loaf.  The only problem is that I may have taken it a step too far: condiments. We tried my favorite horseradish sauce – which I put on all my sandwiches – and the next day she claimed to have no sensation in her entire vagina. Is there any way I can help her heal, get back to my meal and seal the deal?

While your fine dining efforts with your girlfriend are admirable, eating her out “buffet style” was a fool’s move. The pH level in a woman’s vagina can easily be thrown off by introducing foreign objects; the result can be a bacterial infection. Unless you’re after a sandwich with a little more yeast, you’d be wise to keep the edibles simple and occasional.

Your girlfriend is likely reacting to one of two components in the horseradish sauce: vinegar or allyl isothiocyanate (AITC, which is responsible for the pungent flavor that fires up your tongue). Her distress isn’t surprising when you consider that this chemical compound, in its synthetic form, is used as an insecticide, animal repellant and topical anesthetic; it’s also used to denature alcohol and combat mold growth. (Are you trying to please your lady friend, or torture her?)

In any case, make sure she gets checked out by a doctor ASAP for bacterial or yeast infections that may have been causing her unpleasant odor. How do you like that for bon appetit?

Dear Yvonne:

How can I deep-throat without feeling like I’m going to hurl?

Open up and say “ahhhhh”. Seriously. The key to going deep without practically choking on an appendage as it moves faster and faster towards your tonsils is to stay relaxed.

You can do this by forgetting that you’ve got a foreign object lodged down your throat, and, instead, pretend that you’re at a wild frat party doing a keg stand. The beer spout has been shoved in your mouth and you’re chugging some truly vomit-worthy, cheap-ass brew, all the while keeping your throat muscles relaxed and breathing through your nose.

With this visual in mind, don’t focus on the tip of the penis; instead, pay attention to where your lips are on the shaft, and apply pressure there. Lastly, hold the penis steady to keep its owner in line. Some guys can get a bit carried away with this kind of blowjob, thinking their partner’s mouth can handle as much banging as their much-adored snatch, but most mouths cannot. 

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